Quote of the Day by William Penn: True Silence

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Silence is A Beautiful Thing....

True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment. ~William PennI read a quote about silence in a Nicholas Sparks book once. A character, who was enjoying a road trip with someone as they rode in silence, was wondering why so many people seem to think they have to “fill silence.” I agreed so wholeheartedly that I probably underlined the quote.

I’m a bona fide quote-underliner… which is why I don’t check out a lot of library books. It’d bankrupt me.

William Penn is, apparently, another strong appreciator of quietness.

The next time you feel you have the need to “fill” silence, ask yourself a very important question…. “Why?“

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Infographic: 9 Ways to Get Your Energy Back!

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When Your Get Up and Go Got Up and Went Without You…

Here’s a great infographic that you might want to keep for future reference. It lists 9 easy ways to find your energy when it’s hiding from you.

I HATE it when my get up and go plays hide and seek – it can be so good at hiding sometimes it could go pro.

If you’ve been having problems for a while with low energy, you might want to schedule a doctor’s visit. It could be something as simple as low iron, low B12,

How to Overcome Dread: Get “Through” Something You’d Rather Go “Around”

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Perspective, Perspective, Perspective...

Quote About Perspective by Dr. Wayne DyerDread. verb

to fear greatly; to be in extreme aprehension of; to be reluctant (to do, meet, experience)

Dread.  Even the word, itself, seems marinated in evil and ill will, doesn’t it?  Yet, ironically, most of the things we dread aren’t marinated in much more than inconvenience or maybe a little self doubt.

Many people dread going to work each Monday morning. For 12 years, I dreaded going to school each Monday morning. And Tuesday, and Wednesday…

I think a lot of Monday dreads come from the fact that it’s on the other side of Paradise, also known as the weekend. Weekends are brief little reminders of how things could be if we were 4 years old and Monday morning is nothing more than a big mean time machine.

No wonder it has such a bad rep.

Many issues in life, however, feel heavier than Mondays.  Whether it’s a public speaking engagement, a wedding role, a dentist visit, or any event that feels like a black cloud following you around, you have to remind yourself to keep things in perspective. A reminder is often needed because, let’s face it, once our emotions get involved, reason AND perspective fly right out the window.

Keep it in Perspective, Chief

The event will, more likely than not, be a ONE and DONE type event. It’ll probably last, at most, a mere few hours out of ONE day. A ONE and DONE.  Each minute you spend agonizing over it takes the ONE and multiplies it. If you, collectively, spend an hour agonizing over the event, you’ve taken a ONE on a stress scale and made it a SIXTY. That’s simply giving it much more power than it deserves. If the event is, admittedly a minor event, think of times in your life when you’d have loved to have traded places. A girl I knew in high school always amazed the rest of us. Not only did she not dread and agonize over giving speeches in class, she almost seemed to enjoy it. Never being one to shy away from asking questions that needed to be asked, one day I questioned her about it. Turns out she had spent a lot (as in months on end) of time in a children’s hospital and  had endured (at that time) several grueling surgeries. She said that she used to get really nervous about speaking in front of class until her father told her one night, “Leslie, you’ve lived through far worse than this. You lived through 10s… this is a 2.”  She told me that it rang a bell for her and that, after than night, any time she felt overwhelmed by anything, she heard his voice. Perspective.  Ask yourself, “Is the dread coming from a lack of self confidence?” If it is, ask yourself a follow up question, “What are three proactive things you can do to make yourself feel more confident.” If you’re like me (God love you), it may be as simple as a great new top or earrings that are “to die for.” If the event or situation will involve something you don’t feel very knowledgeable about, brush up on the subject.  Armed with knowledge and a snazzy new top, you’ll feel unstoppable and may even begin counting the days to to the event rather than dreading them. Proceed with caution with this one, but some people soothe their nerves by asking, “What’s the worst that could happen?” I’ll be honest, my imagination is far too advanced and far too outrageous for me to even attempt this one, but if you’re a normal person, this may work well for you! Again, it’s all about perspective.  While the tip above is out of my league, I’m all over this one: Find the silver lining, even if you have to sew it in yourself. There may be 110 million things I am unable to do in this world, but one that I pretty much own is the ability to find the good in bad, the beauty in ugly, and the positive in the negative. I know that God endows us all with certain talents and abilities and I thank Him for this particular ability – it has carried me through many storms in life. No matter what you’re dreading, look for the positive. Find the silver lining and focus entirely on it. Even if it’s as simple as, “This will soon be over and I’ll never have to dread it again.”  Search out the “pretty” and stare at it like it’s the most beautiful sunset you ever saw. Thinking about things you’ve dreaded in the past.  More times than not, your “past dreads” turned out better than you’d hoped. Before beginning this article, I thought back to the “minor dreads” I’d experienced in life. (These, of course, don’t include things such as funerals or surgeries – they’re anything but minor and require more than seven tips to survive.) Not only were my past dreads not worth the hype I’d given them, I actually didn’t mind them in the least. Many times, things I dreaded turned out to be downright enjoyable. Be smart about where you put your energy.  Many times when we dread something, we spend an embarrassing amount of time trying to “get out of it.”  We’ll pray, bargain, plan, scheme… anything to find our way around the inevitable. Wouldn’t that time be better spent preparing for the moment or…. I don’t know… living?  Dreading isn’t living!

Keep everything in perspective and don’t create a monster out of a mosquito.

~ Joi

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” – Dale Carnegie

 

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Sleep Better

5 Things You Can Do To Sleep Better

” Sleep is the best meditation” Dalai Lama

Having a good night sleep is becoming obsolete. If you can get 6 hours of good sleep with no interruptions congratulations, you are the minority. Your smartphone volume is not helping the situation either. We’re always receiving emails, texts,

Staying Mentally Strong is A Huge Part of Aging Well

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And by Huge, I Mean H-U-G-E!

Henry Ford Quote About Learning

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty.” – Henry Ford

In addition to Self Help Daily, I have a brain health and mental fitness blog, “Out of Bounds.”  Mental fitness and all that goes with it (preventing dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease, brain strength, overcoming stress, dealing with anxiety, etc) is one of my greatest passions. I spend as much time reading about brain health as I spend reading anything.

If I could recommend just three things to you to incorporate into your life to improve the health of you brain, they would be:

Eating a “heart healthy” diet – lots of fruit, healthy nuts, vegetables, and fish, while cutting WAY back on fried food, saturated fat, red meat, and sugar. Getting plenty of activity – whether it’s yard work, housework, walking, or yoga… don’t be a couch potato. You do not have to go to a gym or buy special equipment. If you’re moving and grooving, your brain doesn’t know (or care) whether you’re at the gym, on a trail, or in your yard. Keep learning every single day of your life. Use it or you’ll lose it. Literally.

I’m not going to “mother hen” you about the first two (today anyway), but I do want to encourage you with third. When my girls were little, one of the first things I ingrained into their minds was this: “A day spent without learning something is a day wasted.” Since I home-schooled them from Kindergarten through 12th grade, it was easy to make sure they wasted as little time as possible.

Like my girls, all of us have ample opportunities to learn something new every day as long as we’re in school. The challenge comes when “school isn’t in session,” whether that’s weekends, holidays, summers, or the all-encompassing rest of our lives.

A lot of people have the mistaken assumption that their work or vocation provides “enough” learning.  While having a challenging job does help keep our minds active, we need MORE. Why? Well, one reason is the fact that we become programmed to respond to the challenges of our daily job.

For example, I work full-time from home as a blogger/web publisher/writer.  While things such as developing a recipe for my food blog, writing a book review, or researching for an article on early-stage dementia keep my brain cells busy, it’s all in my wheelhouse.

However, if I work on developing a recipe in an area I’m not the least bit familiar with (such as Indian cooking) or research/read up on a subject entirely new to me – it’s a wake up call for my brain cells and they love it.

This “in your wheelhouse” dilemma is one of the reasons why so many educated and intelligent people are developing dementia. Each day, they stay firmly in their wheelhouse. Whether they’re afraid they don’t have the time to venture out or they lack the inclination, I honestly believe it’s at least part of their downfall.

So, the lesson for you is this – get out of your wheelhouse and learn more every single day.

One fun, inexpensive, and mentally stimulating way to do just that is to “go back to school” – or to be more precise, “go back to school books.”  Get your hands on a few schoolbooks, covering different subjects, and read through them as you did in school…

take notes as you read look up words you aren’t familiar with answer the questions that inevitably hold you accountable at the end of each chapter

While I wholeheartedly encourage finding textbooks dealing with your “old favorites” (for me, these would be History, Literature, and English), the real magic happens when you dig deep into those subjects you didn’t particularly care for (my mortal enemies were science, geography, and anything with numbers).

Recently, I sorted through some of the textbooks I saved from my daughters’ home-schooling days and found just what I was looking for Geography for Christian Schools (on Amazon for $1.14, hardback). Geography – one of my mortal enemies.  Even when my daughters studied Geography in our home-school, I didn’t immerse myself in the subject – I did as I did in school, payed just enough attention to get by.  Aside from the flags of the countries (which I find uncommonly fascinating), all other aspects of Geography always made my eyes glaze over. When I was in school, I’d daydream about my basset hound, Siamese cat, lunch, softball… anything BUT what was in my textbook or on the chalkboard.

I decided to go back this time and REALLY delve in – memorize the capitals of the countries of the world, the desserts, lakes, rivers, and as many other geographically-inclined facts I used to snub. Oddly enough, I’m actually finding it incredibly interesting this time around.  Imagine if I’d just paid attention back then.

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Geography TextbookA Few Tips for Finding/Using Textbooks:

Amazon has A LOT of Textbooks and many are ridiculously cheap. Anyone who home-schools today really has it made. There are textbooks and workbooks for both high school and college. If you really, really, really need to go back and brush up on a subject – start with the lowest grade level needed and move up. When it comes to math, I don’t even want to think how far back I’d have to go.  I seriously think I have a math allergy. When you buy an “older” history or geography textbook, keep in mind that some details and information has, undoubtedly, changed. The fact that you’ll find yourself on Google double-checking information simply means you’re doing more research and using your brain EVEN more. A lot of used bookstores and “Teacher Supply Stores” have textbooks and workbooks. They’re definitely worth checking out. If you’re really brave (and we’re talking braver than I am), grab foreign language textbooks and brush up on a language you once knew or even learn a totally new one. When you come across a subject that’s especially interesting, go deeper. Find more books dealing with the subject and uncover everything you can find online.

You get the picture, wake up those brain cells by snatching them out of their comfort zone.  So few good things happen in the comfort zone and that holds especially true for your brain’s fitness and your mental health.

Never stop learning –  your future self will thank you for it.

~ Joi

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The Science Behind a Happy and Healthy Heart

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In addition to Black History month, February is also National Heart Health month. It has a lot of great things on its mind for such a short month!

Below is an article all about heart health. I hope you’ll read it, enjoy it, and most importantly benefit from it.

For years to come! ~ Joi

The Science Behind a Happy and Healthy Heart
By Benita Lee, of LabDoor.com

As Valentine’s Day rolls around, it’s hard to escape all the hearts in pink and red and every shade in between. Candied. Papered. Ballooned. Glittered. They’re EVERYWHERE. In this season of romance and love, we think your own heart deserves a little attention too. So, for a moment, we invite you to consider the very real heart inside of you and follow along in this list of 5 fascinating ways to keep your heart happy and healthy.

1. Take care of the basics
A healthy diet and exercise regimen are essential for a healthy heart. There’s no way around it. Most of the main predictors for heart disease, including hypertension, high blood cholesterol, diabetes, obesity, and physical inactivity can be modulated with diet and exercise. For some tips, the American Heart Association has an excellent guideline for a heart-healthy diet, and they recommend at least 150 minutes of moderate physical activity each week.

On top of preventing heart disease, research also shows that certain foods and regular exercise can make you happier. In a study of more than 12,000 subjects, people who consumed the most processed foods like fries, fried chicken, cookies, and cakes were 37% more likely to become depressed than people who avoided junk foods. On the other hand, Mediterranean diets slow the rate of neuropsychological decline compared to diets low in vegetables and high in animal fat. Exercise can make these mood and cognitive benefits even more pronounced. In the short-term, a good exercise session can improve your mood for about 4 hours, but regular exercise long-term has the potential to improve mood and self-esteem, and slow the progression of brain diseases like Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, Huntington’s, depression, and ADHD by promoting neuron creation.

2. Invest in positive relationships

Emotionally supportive relationships, characterized by caring, sympathy, and understanding keep your heart healthy. In fact, the degree to which you feel loved in your relationships affects your risk for atherosclerosis, or hardening of the arteries, and how quickly it advances. Research also shows that negative close relationships increase the risk for coronary heart disease even more than positive relationships can protect you from it. That’s because negative interactions carry heavy risks for depression, reduced self-esteem, and anger, all of which lead to inflammatory and immune stress responses that damage your organs.

Ultimately, it’s important for you to feel valued, so do your heart a favor by seeking supportive relationships and managing negative ones, whether that means repairing them, distancing yourself, or asking for outside help. Recognize, also, that relationships are a two-way street. In a study of individuals above 70 years old, something as trivial as helping others with small tasks and making them feel like help is available when they need it has been shown in research to prolong life for both parties.

3. Limit your work stress
Work can come with a lot of heart-damaging stress, especially since most of us spend the majority of our waking hours working. Maybe you have little control over your job prospects. Maybe you lack support from your colleagues. Maybe you experience an unfairly low pay rate. Or maybe you feel a lack of due recognition. These circumstances have all been found in research to be associated with risk factors for coronary heart disease like high LDL cholesterol levels and hypertension. In a study of more than 10,000 subjects, a chronic (5-year) effort-reward imbalance at work independently doubled the risk of new coronary heart disease.

Even if this speaks to your personal situation, there are certain things you can do to help your heart. Effective modifications include giving up an over-commitment to work. You may just be exhibiting too much need for control. Also, you can try stress-relieving techniques like regularly performing progressive muscular relaxation, listening to your favorite music, and monitoring emotions that might be counterproductive. Instead of bottling up stress, that energy can be used instead to remind yourself that you can always freshen your perspective, stimulate conversations with your colleagues about structural changes at your company, and even hone in on transferrable skills that can land you a more rewarding job. Coping with problem-solving tactics protects your heart from the damages of stress.

4. Tune in to your feelings
Research shows that tuning in to your emotions, being self-aware, and remaining optimistic are all keys to a healthy heart. You’ve likely felt your pulse racing at a time when you were very defensive, scared, or angry. That’s because hostility, anxiety, and anger are highly reactive emotions that increase your body’s stress response. As a result, your body can lose some control of your heart rate and initiate processes that promote blood clots and high blood pressure, both of which contribute to an increased risk for a heart attack. The hopeful news is that social support has been shown to decrease these disease risks, even for Type A (‘hostile’) and Type D (‘distressed’) people who tend to veer towards reactive responses. Another negative emotion, depression, also acts as a strong risk factor for heart disease and can benefit from social involvement.

Before stressful events come along, it’s critical that you have modes of support set up. Counseling and other uplifting relationships and activities can help you explore unhealthy emotional responses and encourage practical problem-solving, which will give your optimism a healthy boost. Quite interestingly, research studies have linked high levels of optimism with lower levels of blood pressure and higher levels of circulating immune cells that help the body defend against stress. A tendency towards forgiveness has also been proposed in research to affect physiological health. The American Heart Association even has a resource for coping with feelings, specifically to prevent health risks in cardiac patients.

5. Make meaningful life goals
As mentioned when discussing work stress, lowering one’s over-commitment to work can increase happiness and protect your heart’s health. More broadly though, extrinsic success goals in general, which include pursuing the ability to buy things, impressing or controlling others, and succeeding in a job, negatively relate to life satisfaction. In research, focusing on material goals predicts a whole slew of heart disease risk factors like depression, anxiety, low life contentment, disrupted sleep, and emotional disturbances. Health, in contrast, was found to be higher in people with more intrinsic goals like relational intimacy – deep interpersonal relationships built on trust and affection – and generatively – giving of oneself to others and being concerned for future generations. These pursuits, along with prayer, meditation, and reading spiritual texts have been shown in research to support health and happiness, especially when individuals were faced with making meaning of and adjusting to change and adversity.

When the cardiovascular system is studied specifically, research finds that people who practice self-reflection and live consistently with intrinsic life goals have lower levels of heart disease risk. Truly, the potential inadvertent health benefits of a relationally-oriented and generous life are many. The list includes less cigarette smoking, lower cholesterol, lower blood pressure, more physical activity, less alcohol abuse, better diets, lower stress levels, greater social support, lower hostility and anxiety, greater optimism and hope, and greater well-being overall.

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Unlocked: Keys to Getting Out & Staying Out (Review)

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Great Book for Those Looking for a Second Chance

Unlocked Keys to Getting Out and Staying Out
“Unlocked: Keys to Getting Out & Staying Out”

Every now and again, my book reviews or book previews are geared toward a particular audience and that’s the case with the book I want to tell you about today: “Unlocked”: Keys To Getting Out & Staying Out.

Sadly, there’s a lot… make that A LOT… in the news today about police officers and their relationship with those who are on the wrong side of the law.

My personal feeling on this is simple – don’t get on the wrong side of the law! No one makes an individual break the law – it’s his or her choice. Plain and simple, they think they can get away with it.  If you have sons or daughters, you’re doing them a GRAVE disservice if you tell them anything other than, “Do NOT break the law.” If you lead them to believe, even for a millisecond that law officers are the enemy – mark my words, you’ll live to regret it.  The day they’re behind bars, or worse, you’ll want to go back and do it all over again.

“Unlocked”: Keys To Getting Out & Staying Out is written by veteran prison officer Chance Johnmeyer and his passion for helping individuals and families “edit” their stories to create happier endings is palpable.

I happily agreed to tell my readers about this book because when it comes to helping people, I am particularly drawn to:

young people people who feel they have nowhere to turn people who have messed up and want a second chance

Many individuals who end up on the wrong side of the law are heartbreaking combinations of these three groups – young people who desperately need someone to lay down the law. Someone who will tell them what’s acceptable, what is not, and what the consequences are when you get the two twisted.

People who need a second chance because the first one didn’t go especially well particularly bring out the mother instincts in me! We’ve all messed up before and we’re familiar with the sick feeling of knowing you really have no one to blame but yourself. That kind of sucks, doesn’t it?

I’ve always wished I could have a few minutes with someone right before they make the biggest mistake of their life. And I’ve always wished I could have a few minutes with someone, after the mistake was made to let them know it’s not the end of the world… that tomorrow will come, so they’d better be ready for it.

Chance Johnmeyer took these “few minutes” and turned it into a powerful book.

“Written by veteran prison officer Chance Johnmeyer of New Hampshire, and Florida with contributions from several former inmates, Unlocked: Keys to Getting Out & Staying Out is an honest guide for those re-entering society. Combining compassion, experience, and practical advice, “Unlocked” talks straight about the challenges facing released inmates as they try to reestablish life on the outside. Filled with exercises, real-life suggestions, and a resource guide for Florida inmates, Unlocked is your pocket guide to embracing freedom and starting over–the right way.”

“Unlocked”: Keys To Getting Out & Staying Out – while certainly aimed toward the individual who needs to get out and stay out – is also, in my opinion, an eye-opening read for any young person who might be in need of a wake up call.

If this sounds like anyone in your life, here’s your chance to be the one who stands between them and disaster.  The one who says, “This is not how the story is going to end because I love you too much.”

A few days ago, the author tweeted out a picture of a gentleman being released from prison and it was captioned, “going home.”  It honestly made me teary eyed because “going home” are two of the most beautiful words in the world.  The only thing more beautiful is, of course, never having to leave in the first place.

It’s my hope, and even more importantly my prayer, that this book will save as many people as I believe it has the potential to.

See “Unlocked”: Keys To Getting Out & Staying Out on Amazon – available as a paperback or on Kindle.

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Quote Graphic: Too Busy with My Own Grass…

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Why Should I Even Care How Green Their Grass Is???

Quote about greener grass

There are a lot of things I don’t “get.” Too many to even list, so I’ll just stick with this one for now: I don’t “get” why anyone worries about how green their neighbor’s grass is, how good someone else has it, or what so and so is up to.

I’m honestly not sure if this is because…

A. As an only child, I’ve always lived in my own little world.

or…

B. I’m “live and let live” in human form.

Probably “C,” a combination of the two. But, if you stop to think about it, what does it matter what THEY are doing or how they’re doing it if it doesn’t affect YOU?

Be so busy living your own life that you barely have time to even notice how others live theirs. Why waste even a precious moment fixating on someone else’s world – live in your own world and relish every single minute!

~ Joi (“Joy”)

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Review: Rise From Darkness – Paths Out of Depression Toward Happiness

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Rise from Darkness: Paths Out of Depression Toward Happiness
Rise from DarknessThere are illnesses and particularly cruel “demons” that other people battle which just leave me speechless. Battles that take uncommon strength to endure, overcome, and rise from. Alcoholism, cancer, and depression are three such demons.

Most of us take our particular paths in life for granted.  We meander along, sometimes complaining if we’re short a little money, hungry, or (egad!) inconvenienced.

Yet, how fast would we run back to our own path if we were to get a sample of the seemingly steep and grinding path others face?! A path lined with demons which want nothing more than to make forward progress treacherous. I’ve talked to many titans who have battled these demons and, almost without fail, they say that the toughest part is when you think you’ve seen the last battle, inevitably another appears.

Basically, they find themselves walking down a path that’s finally clear of demons and, just as they exhale, another jumps out.

Titans.

“In the USA, 17% of the population suffers from depression during the course of their lives, and it appears a though this may be an increasing problem… at the same time, more and more youths are becoming depressed…” – Rise from Darkness, Page 15

Personally, I believe Depression may be the most maddening of the three. With Cancer and Alcoholism, at least you know what you’re up against. People who suffer from depression often aren’t even sure what they’re battling. They feel as though they’re battling themselves, which must be an especially dark kind of hell.

BUT, the story doesn’t end there in the darkness – heck, it’s not even the middle of the story, let alone the end! The individual suffering from depression does however, have to want to escape the darkness. As author Kristian Hall says, “The very first step is to decide to start pulling yourself out of the pit. There is no one else who can do this for you; you must do it yourself.”

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Rise from Darkness: Paths Out of Depression Toward Happiness
Rise from Darkness: Paths Out of Depression Toward Happiness (Back Cover)

About the Author:

Kristian Hall went through eleven years of deep depression as a teenager and student. He overcame his depression by practicing techniques from cognitive behavioral therapy and positive psychology. His personal development did not stop there – he’s now living the life of his dreams. He lives in the deep forest around Oslo, together with his family and a very strange Maine Coon cat.

Let’s Get Back to the Path

Returning to the analogy of a dark path for a minute, I have to tell on myself. One especially hot summer day I was on a series of hiking trails here in Kentucky. I had gotten so busy (as is my style) admiring trees and birds that I looked around at one point and realized, “I have zero idea where I am and I have zero idea how I got here.”  Staying put certainly wasn’t an option, so I immediately set about finding my way out of the dark forest and back to the comfort of my vehicle.

It wouldn’t have made any sense to have sat right down where I was and bemoaned my plight and I’d have looked like a perfect, sweaty fool if I’d stood there looking around for someone to blame OR to come save me.

You get the analogy. When we find ourselves in a place we do not want to be, it’s our call to get ourselves the heck out of there.

Rise from Darkness is an IDEAL guide book for anyone on the path of darkness (depression).  People such as myself (who have never battled depression) cannot possibly offer guidance or advice. With only the best intentions, we may try, but… to be honest… what do we know?!?!

The only person who can truly navigate an individual through the dark forest of depression is one who has made the journey himself/herself.

When I was lost in the forest, someone who had never been in the forest could have tried to help me out but I don’t have to tell you how much more effective my journey would have been if someone who had also been lost before and had found their way out had galloped up on a white horse. Or brown. Or black… Or red… Lost hikers can’t be choosy.

If THEY have been there, THEY know what you’re going through. If THEY have made it out, THEY can show you how to get out.

Kristian Hall battled his depression for years and he wants, very much, to help you find your way out in far less time. I have read this wonderful, fast-reading, and downright fascinating book and want to see it make it to as many hands as possible.

I honestly believe this book is just the thing people battling depression need.  What’s more, I believe it could be equally useful to those battling anxiety – a pretty dark forest in its own right.

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Rise from Darkness: Paths Out of Depression Toward Happiness
Rise from Darkness 

If you are battling depression, this book review is (and I don’t say this lightly) a lifeline.  Someone who cares about you (that would be me) is pointing you to an author (Kristian Hall) who will guide you to the happiness and light you deserve. Please click through and learn more about Rise from Darkness. It is available on Amazon for less than the cost of a trip to McDonald’s.

The book is divided into 5 “Parts” –

How to Be Happy Get Better Right Now Depression’s Companions Long-Term Self-Improvement Meditation and Self-Hypnosis

As you can see, this book isn’t about having a brighter, happier tomorrow, it’s about RISING and having a brighter, happier life.

I want to conclude the book review with one of my favorite passages from Rise from Darkness. It’ll give you a feel for the author’s great writing style and the clarity of his message.  This is from one of the Part 2 (“Get Better Right Now”) of the book:

Live Here and Now

“Live here and now” is a cliche’, you might say. I am not afraid of using cliche’s. Cliche’s are life wisdom that has been passed down through the generations, mantras that are repeated so often that sometimes they lose their power. We often take cliche’s for granted and do not always reflect on their meaning.

“Live here and now” is maybe the most valuable cliche’ of all. But this can be difficult for many of us to do in practice. We are so used to rolling along the highway of life that we rarely really live in the now.

Put down this book and lean back. Listen to the sounds around you. Try to feel how your body actually feels. Feel where in your body you have tension, and which parts of the body are relaxed. Notice your breathing, how quickly you breathe, how evenly you can breathe in and out. Breathe slowly and deeply. Look at the space around you; notice the color nuances and textures on the walls, the details in all the objects present.  Are there people around you. Observe them without doing anything yourself. Are there smells in the room? Try to describe them. Take a few minutes using all of your senses to register the details of your surroundings and inside you.

Did you notice that plaguing thoughts, plans, and worries disappeared for a moment?  That for a moment they ceased to exist. That was quite pleasant, was it not?  – Rise from Darkness by Kristian Hall

See Rise from Darkness on Amazon.

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