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10 Reasons Psychotherapy is Good for You

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Why go to therapy?  Some people are under the misapprehension that going to therapy means that you are “crazy” or “weak.” But really, going to therapy for any reason, is at its most basic, an exercise in trying to improve the quality of your life.  Psychotherapy can help people of all different ages and lifestyles lead happier, healthier and more productive lives.

De-stress – Few people will deny being stressed at least once in their lifetime, but for many, stress can be ongoing and unbearable. Therapy can help you uncover the underlying causes of your worries and fears; learn how to relax; look at situations in new, less frightening ways; and develop better coping and problem-solving skills. Therapy gives you the tools to overcome anxiety and teaches you how to use them. Love and accept yourself – Many people struggle with this even when they’re not necessarily depressed or suffering from other psychological disorders. Therapy can help you explore roadblocks to self-esteem and teach you practical ways to feel stronger and more confident in yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. A healthier marriage/relationship – Let’s face it, relationships have the ability to bring out the best, but more often than not, the worst in us and our partners. Couples psychotherapy can help you identify problematic patterns in communication, such as habits of criticism, defensiveness or withdrawal and help a couple reconnect with what they value in each other, leading to a more fulfilled marriage and/or relationship. Be a better parent – Many of us, to our horror, find ourselves reverting to parenting patterns we observed in our own childhood. Therapy can offer you the tools to help foster better parenting skills, helping you create healthier boundaries with your children, and becoming the parent you want to be. Thrive in your career – A person’s career is often one of the most important aspects of their life. Are you unhappy where you work or do you want to strive for something different? Is fear or interpersonal conflict holding you back? Therapy can be the catalyst for healthy change in your career and provide you with the confidence to achieve your goals. Lost your zest for life? – Does your life feel dry, flat or routine? Do you find more often than not that you’re simply going through the motions, doing the daily tasks that must be done with little pleasure, satisfaction or delight? When life has ceased feeling meaningful, joyous or purposeful, therapy can help us take a deeper look at ourselves and reevaluate our commitments and priorities, uncovering the passions buried under the ‘busyness’ of life. Get some objectivity – Psychotherapy provides a supportive environment that enables you to discuss your issues openly with someone who is objective, neutral and nonjudgmental. You can explore yourself and go deeper into your thoughts and feelings. Therapy can offer a different perspective and assist you in gaining more insight into your situation and reactions.  Good therapy takes you further than just insight, it can teach you the skills you need to create the life you want. Physical symptoms get treated too – Stomach aches, headaches, sleeping problems, and ulcers are just some of the ways our body reacts to stress and psychic pain. Through the use of psychotherapy to relieve stress and anxiety, you can experience relief from painful physical symptoms. Learn to be more self assertive and express emotion – Explore, experiment, and practice behaviors that are scary for you in life. Shy people can learn and practice ways to manage confrontation without fear. Detached people can experiment with expressing emotion safely. When you’ve tried this out a few times in session, you’ll feel more comfortable putting it into practice out in the world. Long-lasting benefits – A huge benefit of therapy is that its effects are long-lasting. You learn more effective ways to tackle problems and solve difficult situations, these include, different ways of thinking, more effective coping mechanisms, and improved problem-solving skills. This means you develop skills and tools, which arm you with better strategies for dealing more effectively with both current and any future life challenges, when they arise.

Psychotherapy is helpful in treating serious problems, but it offers many benefits for dealing with the problems and stresses of everyday life also. If we can move past the therapy stigma, perhaps many more people will come to experience therapy’s benefits first hand.

Article provided by London-based CBT, Life Coaching and Psychotherapy specialists Klear Minds.

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Six Signs You May Need a Therapist – by Mike James

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by Mike James

Every year, thousands of individuals make the step to take some therapy and counselling sessions. However, many people are not even aware that they could benefit from this sort of help. Seeking therapy is nothing to be ashamed of – whether you’ve experienced a traumatic event or you have simply found yourself in a position where anxiety or depression has become a part of your life, sometimes everyone needs a helping hand. Emotional problems can be highly disruptive to your life but they can be overcome. Here are six signs that you might need therapy.

You can’t stop thinking about something

There are many things that can be traumatic to our lives. Whether it is the death of someone close to you, the end of a relationship or the loss of a job, some events can be very difficult to overcome. However, there is a difference between a normal amount of grieving and something that you simply cannot get beyond. If you find that you are thinking about something constantly to the point where it affects your daily routine, it might be worth seeking some counselling on the issue.

You’ve started using substances

Whether you’ve started drinking heavily, started using drugs or are just having more thoughts about using drugs, this can be a sign that you are dealing with your problems in an unhealthy way. These substances can be very harmful to you, and even if you think the amount you drink or use is relatively low, it can be easy to fall into a spiral where you have to continuously use more.

Over dependence on other activities like eating or sex can also be a sign that you’re aren’t coping very well with problems. These kids of addictive behaviours are functionally the same thing are using drugs or alcohol to help you cope.

You feel disconnected from friends and family

Many people who are struggling with feelings of stress, anxiety or depression, find that their relationships with loved ones become troubled and unhappy. You might find that you no longer find any joy on meeting up with friends or family, exactly at the time that you need to rely on their support. If you can’t feel positive even with the people who care most about you in can be a great idea to consider getting some therapy.

You’ve stopped enjoying your favourite things

Many people find that emotional struggles can start to permeate through everything that they do. Have you lost interest in your favourite activities? This could indicate that you are having trouble with a certain aspect of your life. It is usually the case that people find that they can’t enjoy activities because their mind is on something else, or that bad experiences mean that they now avoid meeting with other people.

People have become concerned about your behaviour

Sometimes it can be difficult to be aware of exactly how your behaviour has changed. You may not recognise that you are avoiding social contact or aren’t as happy as you once were. Sometimes it can mean a lot to hear it from someone close to you. While it may be a difficult conversation to have – if friends or family have commented on changes they have noticed in you, it could be worth considering counselling. Remember how hard it is to say something to someone who you care about; if a loved one has come to you it will almost certainly be something important.

You’re struggling at work or school

Have you noticed your performance at work or school slipping? Struggling with emotional difficulties tends to become an issue during your daily activities. If you are not able to concentrate properly it will naturally affect your ability to your best work. If you notice that comments at work have become more criticising than complimentary, it may be time to accept that something is changing your performance.

Article provided by Mike James, an independent content writer working together with Brighton and Hove Psychotherapy, a UK based psychotherapy, CBT and life coaching specialist

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Tired! Well What of That… – Didst fancy life was spent on beds of ease?

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Didst fancy life was spent on beds of ease?

Nacho Cheeks at the Vet

Nacho at the Vet

Tired! Well, what of that?
Didst fancy life was spent on beds of ease,
Fluttering the rose-leaves scattered by the breeze?
Come! rouse thee, work while it is called to-day!
Coward, arise–go forth upon the way!
Lonely! And what of that?
Some one must be lonely; ’tis not given to all
To feel a heart responsive rise and fall,
To blend another life into its own;
Work may be done in loneliness; work on.
Dark! Well, what of that?
Didst fondly dream the sun would never set?
Dost fear to lose thy way? Take courage yet,
Learn thou to walk by faith and not by sight,
Thy steps will be guided, and guided right.
– Unknown.

You gotta love it when your morning e-mail puts you in your place. At the very least, you have to appreciate the irony in spite of yourself.

This past month has been kind of nuts. N-U-T-S.  We had work done in our kitchen that involved a week of emptied cabinets and drawers – with contents spread here, there, and everywhere. When you could short out a pedometer simply by rounding up things to make supper, it grates on your nerves.

I was accidentally “glutened” (long story short: for health reasons I can’t have wheat or gluten because they make my body think it has been poisoned – ugly stomach pains, fatigue, bloating, weight gain, headaches, etc.. when gluten/wheat accidentally make their way into my diet, I refer to it as being “glutened”). Most of the time when this happens (which is rare, thank God), it makes me feel like I have the flu for anywhere between 3-7 days. This particular time, it has caused a lot of respiratory distress – which my asthma is kind of panicking over.

Worst of all, we had a very sick cat on our hands for about a week. We spent the better part of the day with one of our outside cats, Nacho, at the vet yesterday and when you love your pets like family, the whole experience takes its toll. Thankfully, he has his prescription and is expected to make a full recovery within a week.

If only our nerves recover in that time. He gave us a real scare.

There were a few other minor annoyances thrown in here and there, as well. Just suffice to say it has seemed like May was trying to pick a fight with me since day 1!

This morning, I found myself sitting and thinking about yesterday. When you love someone so much (yes, even when that someone is a cat), you risk great pain. Comes with the territory, of course, but it’s a risk nonetheless.  I kept telling my coffee, “I am so tired…” Seriously, I must have thought those words at least 6 times over the course of 3 hours.

Thankfully coffee is an excellent listener.

After I finished the morning chores and sat down at the computer in my home office, I opened my e-mail. I subscribe to several daily inspirational newsletters and I always go for them first. The poem at the top of the post is the first one I saw.

Well played, God. Very well played.

After re-reading the poem a few times (to let it really sink in), I started thinking about the lyrics to one of the catchiest songs in the world:

I beg your pardon I never promised you a rose garden
Along with the sunshine there’s gotta be a little rain sometime
When you take you gotta give so live and let live and let go oh oh oh oh
I beg your pardon I never promised you a rose garden

I could promise you things like big diamond rings
But you don’t find roses growin’ on stalks of clover
So you better think it over
Well, if sweet talking you could make it come true
I would give you the world right now on a silver platter
But what would it matter
So smile for a while and let’s be jolly love shouldn’t be so melancholy
Come along and share the good times while we can I beg your pardon I never promised you a rose garden
Along with the sunshine there’s gotta be a little rain sometime…

Like the poem, these lyrics are worth reading a few times through, too!

Roses don’t grow on stalks of clover. Cats aren’t healthy every single day of their lives and we won’t feel great every single day of our life.  Along with the sunshine there’s gotta be a little rain sometime.  Every day of the year isn’t going to fall under the heading of “normal.”

I guess sometimes we just have to stop and think it over. We shouldn’t make life so melancholy… it was never meant to be a 24/7 walk in a rose garden, after all. The good times far outnumber the bad and the more energy we spend thinking about the bad times, the less time we’re spending thinking about the good.

Very often the bad is just a fleeting moment, when all things are considered. Take Nacho for example. The picture at the top was taken yesterday at the vet. That was one miserable little boy. But, in no time at all, he’ll be back to his old self, like the picture below. Healthy, happy, and actively looking for something to get into!

I beg your pardon, but think the song nailed it – let’s smile more and enjoy the good times while we can! Even in the rain, a rose garden is still a rose garden.

~  Joi and Nacho

Nacho Cheeks May 3, 2016 Nacho: King of the Jungle

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Heather Von St. James: 10 Years Cancer Free! – What We Can All Learn from a Very Special Lady Who Beat Mesothelioma

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What We Can All Learn from a Very Special Lady Who Beat Mesothelioma

Heather Von St. James
Heather Von St. JamesEver read about what someone else has been through and want to kick yourself for complaining about allergies, low blood sugar, or migraines. Not that any of those are fun, mind you, but they’re pebbles compared to the mountains others have had to carry or continue to carry.

Case in point – a few days ago, I was bemoaning seasonal allergies when I read about a 26 year old young mother who had a stroke.

26!

People all around us are fighting monsters each and every day. Not the ones who hide under the bed or in the closet. The monsters I’m talking about aren’t fond of hiding. They’re fond of getting in your face, yelling, taunting, and threatening to take everything you love.

What never ceases to amaze me is this – some of these monsters pick fights with the wrong people!

In 2005, Heather Von St. James and her husband had just welcomed a beautiful healthy baby girl into the world, Lily.  Is that a beautiful name, or what?

The joy of having a newborn was short lived as the fear of what the ever-daunting “C” word would mean. Cancer. Heather was diagnosed with a rare but preventable cancer mesothelioma. The cancer, she learned, was something she developed after wearing her father’s work jacket around the house as a child, a jacket she did not know carried toxic asbestos fibers that would affect the lining of her lungs. Excitement and potential turned to fear and uncertainty as the new family she created began to slowly process that she was given only 15 months to live.

Fear can be quite powerful, something that paralyzes most, and prohibits. But Heather did not allow this to happen. After some time asking herself why, wondering what would happen, fearing the future even, her survivor instincts kicked in. She knew that she had no other option but to beat this, and looking at Lily and Cam affirmed this. She couldn’t let the fear control her, or dictate her decisions. This led Heather to undergo an extremely risky surgery that involved the removal of her left lung, which her family later dubbed Lung Leavin’ Day. The surgery in addition to early detection, radiation, and chemotherapy are some of the reasons that she can proudly stand a 10 year mesothelioma survivor today. This is not something that many meso patients can brag, as she is one of few.

Lung Leavin Day!
Lung Leavin’ Day!Heather now aims to be a voice for the victims, and speak out about the secrets of the asbestos industry, as the material that almost took her life is still around and legal today. She encourages everyone to conquer their fears, and even has a site where you can virtually smash your fears into the fire, much like her friends and family do with her for Lung Leavin Day. Fear can be powerful, yes, but it should never control your life.

A clear case of, yet again, an ugly monster picking a fight with the wrong girl!

I hope you’ll click through the links above and learn more about Heather, her monster, and how she put him in his place.  This is one of those wonderful stories where, not only did the monster not take everything she loved, he (in spite of himself!) left her with more strength than she probably knew she’d ever had.

Take one look at Heather’s beautiful face and you’ll agree with me, strength is a very beautiful thing!

~ Joi

Heather Von St. James and FamilyHeather and Family: Strong and Beautiful!




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